God Must Laugh A Lot

The Foster Home Series

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Being a Foster Mom was never a role I would have ever imagined for myself.  In fact, after just a few years of being married, Jack and I determined that we wanted freedom to explore our dreams of working for the Lord and did not want to be “burdened down” with children.

God and the Angels must really have a good laugh sometimes, because we were "blessed" with a houseful of "children".  Little did we know that the “mission field” God wanted us to work in was as close as our own home. 

My oldest sister is 9 years older than I, and while I was growing up, it was like having a second Mom.  My Mother worked outside of the home and my sister was always there to look after things and make sure I was well cared for.  She did a great job and I love her dearly.  We are still very close.  My brother is 8 years older and spoiled me rotten.  He always made me feel special, and of course I thought he was just the BEST.  My sister closest to me in age is 5 years older.  While I was more of a “tag-along nuisance” for her, she still watched over me.  As you might guess, I was very spoiled and had to do very little for myself.

Jack’s brother is 10 years older than he, and his sister is 8 years older.  In many respects, a good portion of his life was spent as an “only” child because his brother and sister were both away at school and college.  As you might guess, he too was plenty spoiled.

Being that we were both the youngsters of our families, our first years of marriage were spent defining our new roles in this family of ours.  Actually, I must confess that Jack assumed most of the responsibilities.  I was OVERWHELMED with this new life I had “dreamed about”.  Being the youngest in my family, I never really had to do many chores, so, keeping house, cooking, and doing laundry was a whole new adventure for me. 

Shortly after we were married, I remember thinking that I would never tire of ironing shirts for the most wonderful man in the world.  I was WRONG.  Married life was NOT turning out the way I had fantasized it would.  In fact, it was HARD work.  For a short while I lost sight of exactly why I pursued this dream to marry my “soul mate”.  But then, things started to smooth out.  I learned to make the “perfect” PBJ sandwich, just the way my husband liked them, just the way he taught me.  It was such a success I am honored to share my very first recipe with you at this time.

”Jack’s PBJ Sandwich”

First, butter both slices of sesame-topped bread, not too thick and not too thin. 

Spread Jiffy peanut butter on one slice of bread.

Spread Welch’s Concord GRAPE jelly on the other slice of bread.

NEVER try another flavor OR brand of jelly!

Carefully place the two together, and give a tiny little squeeze.

Serve with a “Kiss”.

We were both very pleased with my new “skills” of home making, and this soon became one of our main meals.  Of course by the time we got into the foster care business, I had mastered the art of planning and preparing well-balanced meals.  However, I would never have dreamed that I could ever be capable of preparing a meal for so many people at one time when we were first married.   It never ceases to amaze me how God molds and shapes us as He prepares us for the tasks He has for us to do at a later time.  I have learned SO much over the years, and thankfully for my husband, my cooking skills have improved.

I can’t even count the number of times I have looked back on those “carefree” days with a smile as I lovingly prepared home cooked meals for my “foster family” plus friends, on a daily basis.  I smile at how, in spite of our decision to enjoy a life free of children, God has filled our lives with all the laughter and love that children bring to a home.  He ALWAYS knows what is best for us. 

We loved our foster folks and treated them like part of our family.  They went everywhere we went. Jack and I were always very active in our home church and our foster folks were often left unattended for a portion of the service when we were both up front at the same time. They knew they had to be on their best behavior, and I was always so proud of them for being good. One year our church developed a Special Friends Class especially designed for those with learning disabilities. It was here that one of our guys met the "love of his life".  Her Guardian was a friend of ours, so it wasn't long before a special relationship developed.

One day this young lady came home with us after church so they could spend time together outside of church.  After a while, the two had grown bored and came into the kitchen where I was putting dishes into the dishwasher.  I noticed that our young man was acting a bit nervous and through his stutter, finally got his question out…. “We, we, were wondering if, if, it would be okay with you if, if, we had sex”? 

I will never forget that day.  I stopped what I was doing and did my best to explain to them that sex was a special gift from God just for married couples, and that I didn’t think it would be a good idea for them to have sex just now.  I jokingly asked if they had run off and gotten married, and they laughed and said, “No”.   I then told them how proud I was of them for wanting to do the right thing, and for asking me first.  Thinking of what I would say next, the young man interrupted my thoughts with another question.  “Then, then, can, can we go for ice cream”?  My reply took absolutely no thought at all as I yelled loud enough for the others to hear, “Get your shoes on everyone; we’re going for ice cream”!  It didn’t take much to distract them from their initial request that day, and we all had a good time at the ice cream parlor.

We've shared many a laugh throughout our days being foster parents and j
ust as I have learned one recipe at a time over the years, I have also learned to take one “step” at a time and enjoy the humor along the way. 
 

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